It has been said that you are what your mind thinks you are. This is especially true in the case of sexual dysfunction. Sexual dysfunction is a common problem among numerous couples and individuals and is a very quietly broached subject.
However, most people believe that they are weird, abnormal, strange or different when they are faced with these situations. The calls I receive in my office tell me that people are uncomfortable with the idea of talking about sex. They will only talk about it when it is really bugging them, usually to the point when they are already crying out for help desperately. Even in my hypnotherapy clinic at Camden Medical Centre, they will trivialise their issue.
This is what they would say. “l have this little tiny problem.” Or they may even say that “it’s kind of embarrassing.” And there are the classic cases of “it’s hard to talk about” and “please don’t laugh.”
Feeling tense, lonely, afraid and sometimes in denial, many people find it too embarrassing to talk about or to find solutions so they settle in silence for mediocre sex or, worse still, total abstinence from sex.
The fear of failure or performance anxiety can cause a person’s sex life to come to a screeching halt. Sometimes sex can feel like such a difficult task for both men and women and once you’ve decided how difficult it is, your subconscious mind goes along with this belief and creates that scenario.
It doesn’t have to be this way. If you’ve ever suffered from erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, inhibited sexual desire, sexual arousal disorder, vaginismus or some other orgasmic disorders, you will be interested in reading on.
Your mind is a very powerful organ. It is much more powerful than your sexual organs; hence the reason for your sexual dilemma(s) in the first place. Once a belief about something gets stuck in your subconscious mind, it will end up controlling how your body operates and your body will then act in accordance with that belief.
We know that your subconscious mind accounts for 90% of your mind. All of your beliefs, memories, emotions, and bodily controls are handled by the subconscious mind. Your conscious mind has no direct contact with that part of your mind and therefore usually has no clue what limiting beliefs are keeping you from enjoying greater sexual satisfaction.
Most often the root of the problem is stored in your subconscious mind, not in your sex organs. Whether it is a lack of desire, inability to climax, sexual pain, inhibitions, etc, it almost always starts with an emotional memory that you may not realise you have. Many times, it is something simple, like being caught masturbating. How a person’s first experience with sex goes can also have a lifelong effect on the way the person performs. Religious upbringing can leave old guilty feelings imprinted on the subconscious mind. Whatever the root cause, hypnotherapy can help you release the emotional memory so you can enjoy sex once again.
Hypnotherapy for sexual dysfunction has been proven over and over again. Hypnotherapy can uncover the underlying problem by tapping into your subconscious mind where every experience you’ve ever had is stored. Once you have an understanding of this problem, you can release these anxieties, limiting beliefs or past traumas and give your subconscious mind new understandings that will get your mind working for you instead of against you.
Hypnosis can work wonders for impotence with psychological causes. Even if, for the first time, the impotence was due to physical causes such as illness, drugs or alcohol, a vicious psychological cycle can establish itself thereafter. The thought, “what if it happens again?” has three main impacts:
- It causes stress, which is not the ideal state for getting and maintaining an erection
- It causes you to rehearse things going wrong within your mind, which makes the problem worse
- It makes you focus consciously on getting an erection – exactly the opposite of what you want to do.
The real test for whether impotence has a psychological component for you is whether you can get an erection at other times – on waking in the morning for example.
Hypnosis is such an effective cure for the psychological component of impotence because it:
- Hands control of your sexual performance back to your unconscious mind where it belongs (you can’t try to get an erection – it just has to happen by itself, just like falling asleep)
- Lowers anxiety around sexual performance
- Reminds the mind of your old effective pattern for getting and maintaining an erection
I have been very successful with numerous clients with these sexual dysfunctions in their various forms. In order for hypnosis to work, you would have to answer only two questions in the affirmative. Do you recognise that you have a problem and, if yes, do you want treatment? If you answer ‘yes’ to both questions, then prognosis would be good.